The Bible says, “A friend loves at all times” (Proverbs 17:17). With that in mind, let’s first discuss what we shouldn’t do when sharing our faith: argue. People don’t respond well to argument. When hearts are proud or stubborn, we are tempted to dig in and fight—no matter what creative, logical arguments are presented. So don’t preach and don’t be arrogant. Remember, you were once in their position (Ephesians 2:13).
There are some specific things we can do when sharing with those we care about.
First, be a true friend and listen.
Second, if they are open to it, share information. The Bible says, “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one” (Colossians 4:6). It’s a good idea to pray, asking the Holy Spirit to guide you and help you know when to speak up, what to say, and how to say it. Be sure to add what God has done for you personally to what you’re sharing. How has this changed your relationship with Him and your life for the better? That can make a real impact in someone’s thinking. Sometimes sharing a book or a DVD works well, especially with people who are argumentative.
Third, be a good example. You don’t want to be un-Christlike and get angry with your friends simply because they disagree with you. That’s not the way Jesus would win them over. But you can set an example in the way that you live. If love is your motivation, people will notice. Read Titus 2:6–8!
Fourth, pray for your friends, consistently and patiently. Remember, “The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” (James 5:16). We can’t see things the way God does, and sometimes it takes months or years for Him to transform seed we’ve planted into beautiful new flowers. Trust that He wants to save your friends even more than you do. Don’t give up. Keep praying!
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